Our children learn almost everything from us parents in the early stages. We are their idols and role models. But I feel like parents often miss the great lessons children have for us. As we grow older our thinking changes and we lose some of those great toddler traits. Please take a look at the list by Edward Mills over at Evolving Times, Top 10 life lessons I've learned from my daughter (so far). It's a short list over some things we often forget as we grow up.
One of my favorites, "Feel your emotions fully". I suck at this and keep everything inside me for the maximum amount of time.
Ella isn’t always happy. Like all kids she has moments of frustration and sadness. We’ve done our best to encourage her to fully feel those emotions and express them when they’re happening. It’s amazing to watch how Ella has learned to deal with these moments.
If something happens that causes Ella to feel frustrated or angry she’ll go into her room, close the door, lie down on the floor or on her bed and scream or cry for a minute or two. Then she opens the door, comes back out and says, “All better.” And usually she is. The frustration that was moving through her just needed to be let out.
How often have you held onto sadness, frustration, anger or grief? I know I’ve held onto stuff for a long time! And the longer I hold onto those emotions, the more powerful they become.
Much better to just let them out in the moment and let yourself be “all better!”
If you like this list you must take a look at some simple lessons Steve Olson, one of my favorite bloggers, put together over a year ago. In "10 things I learned from my 4-year old" he talks about how many great things he's learned from his young child. One favorite,"Stop complaining":
Recently my son went through a phase where he complained about everything. His food was too hot, playtime was too short, he didn’t want to go to pre-school, everything was “too hard.” This experience forced me to think and come up with a plan to help my son through this phase. I developed some techniques to help him stop complaining.
His phase taught me how irritating it is to listen to complaints without solutions. His complaining taught me to listen to myself when I start to gripe and realize complaining isn’t going to get me the results I desire. It is one thing to identify something uncomfortable or painful you wish to change, and another to sit and complain about it and do nothing. Solutions provide value – gripes sap energy.
Besides, how can I expect my son to stop complaining, if I complain.
I often discover problems and mistakes but my feedback always sound like complaining, not constructive feedback. I come off as a annoying nagger instead of a problem solver.
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