Steve Olson has a great post up about ADHD which you should check out. He's basically echoing some of my own thoughts. While there are ADHD cases, many parents are just desperately seeking an explanation to their poor parenting. It's a way out of being held accountable, a word most parents have forgotten today. Having a child diagnosed ADHD is a sure way of not being blamed for anything ever again.
The fact is children often don't have ADHD even though parents might want to believe so. Bad behavior by children must be an illness, right? It couldn't be the endless hours spent at work and not with the child. It couldn't be the lack of discipline, rules, and routines in the household. It couldn't be the lack of interest and the thousands of mind numbingly dumb parenting decisions taken. It must be ADHD. Right.
Joe Smith, I notice was doodling on a text book. 'Come on Joe. That's enough of that. Get on with your work please.'
I was new to teaching and trying to be firm but fair. The next minute, Joe grabbed his neighbour's pencil case and threw it across the floor. When I remonstrated him he told me to 'f*** off'.
At the end of the lesson I asked him to stay behind. Demanding an apology, I told him I'd be phoning home as well as reporting his behaviour to the head.
Joe simply shrugged. 'It's not my fault. I'm ill. I've got ADHD. I can't help it.'
I sometimes think of my daughter having ADHD because of her hyper activity. I'm sure I have her diagnosed with some disease if I wanted to. But I know it's my hard work as a father which will determine how she turns out. She will rock the world, I know it. If she doesn't it's still fine. I won't blame it on ADHD or anything else, I'll blame it on my parenting. It's a scary thought for many to take accountability for their parenting. Personally, I find it the only way to focus and get things done.
Labeling poor behavior ADHD, relieving the child of consequences for his actions, teaches tyranny not freedom. It creates high chair tyrants who demand everything and contribute nothing.
I’m not saying there aren’t hard cases. Maybe your child is one of them. I’m not talking about you. But IMHO ADHD is clearly over diagnosed. In the UK, It’s gone from 2,000 in 1991 to 400,000 today. Clearly many schools and parents are using ADHD to absolve them from confronting and correcting damaging behavior.
Take a look at what Steve has to say about ADHD and while you're there, browse around the site of this very wise man. Also read Steve's recommended article about bad behavior, ADHD, and drugs.
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