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Daniel has now been at kindergarten for two weeks and he’s making nice progress.  He has cried quite a bit but now seems to feel safer and more secure at the school.  We are still only leaving him about 5 hours a day and don’t plan on increasing that.   Since we don’t have family in town, or anywhere nearby, Daniel has not been left alone overnight without me or Sandra so far.  Of course we have done stuff together without him but not left him overnight.  It’s therefore our fault that he has been a bit sad and not felt as happy as usual at school.  He still cries when we leave him but only for a few minutes.  I have explained to the staff at school that we are not concerned about him crying a bit and hope that it’s not too annoying for them.  They have so far been great.

Neither we or the staff  are  concerned at all about him crying a bit.  It’s standard procedure for most kids.  But some mothers seem to think their kid is being sent away for prison life sentence every morning.  Not all mothers but there are some sad examples.  I simply don’t understand it.  Are you seriously telling me you have problems leaving your child in qualified hands when you know that he/she is fine and the only reason for crying is a bit of separation anxiety????  Especially since this is during a short period of a week or perhaps two?   You must be kidding.  If you can’t handle this I feel very sorry for you and your family because having your kid grow up will be a nightmare.  If you kid cries because of illness, fear, or an accident it’s of course important to help your child.  If he cries because mommy is going to work and he doesn’t feel like being left alone there should be no concern at all.  It’s simply a part of growing up. 

Fathers handle the crying part much better than mothers.  Mothers might think it’s because we don’t care but that’s not the reason.  We simply think about it a bit more objective and with less emotion.  It’s not always a strength but living a normal life without ever leaving your kid with others is difficult.  I have friends who have not left their kid alone for one night in ten years.  Despite having plenty of family nearby.  Do I need to tell you what kind of marriage they got?  Miserable beyond belief. 

We leave Daniel at childcare because we want to, not because we need to.  For us it’s an important social part of his life and we want him to experience it.  We know he will get sick more often and probably pick up some nasty tricks from other kids.  But it will be great in the long run. 

And we are hoping he will be around for a long long time.

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